Pregnant and longing for a particular sex…
I’m 36 weeks pregnant with my second child and keep feeling emotional about the baby’s sex. We didn’t find out the sex at the ultrasound because we prefer surprises.
We have a beautiful little boy who I love to bits, but I’ve been longing for a girl, even buying a few pieces of girls clothing. Problem is, I’m now feeling quite guilty and don’t want to admit my feelings to anybody… I know I’m very lucky to be pregnant and I’m sure if I have another boy, I’ll instantly fall in love with him and all of this won’t even matter! In fact, I think the main reason I want a girl is so I can buy all of the cute clothes and decorate a little girls room – superficial stuff, really.
I’m wondering whether anybody else has ever felt this way..?
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Thank you so much for your kind words and support, girls. Just over 4 weeks ago I gave birth to a healthy 8.4lb little GIRL!!! So we’re rapt, but I know I would’ve loved a son just as much.
By the time I was about 36 weeks along, I had dealt with those crazy emotions and became very excited by the thought of having two little boys or one of each. In hindsight, I think I was feeling preferential because I had had a strong gut feeling all through the pregnancy that the baby was a girl. At around 7 months, I suddenly thought ‘Hang on, our baby could just as easily be a boy!’
It all seems so silly now. Why was I even worried..?!! But it was great to read your comments and I really appreciated them. Thank you very much
Hi- I can sympathise. Like previous post I have 2 boys (18mths apart), and we also found out at the ultrasound for both. I was so keen to have a girl for #2 that I think I convinced myself I was! I had bought a few girls clothes and had set the name, etc. Then at 20weeks it was very obvious that he was a he! I felt the bitter disappointment, embarrassment and guilt that I had been wrong, and I had been thinking of my son as a she for 5 months! Then, my husband said to our son (around 14months at the time) “there’s your little brother”! I nearly cried from happiness! As mentioned by ‘mumofboys’, I love the bond that they have now. I love being able to swap clothes from one wardrobe straight in to the other. I love that they can share mates, toys, interests.
Having said all of this, I am currently pregnant with our third, and I did look into a lot of the “gender swaying” sites to try to get a girl. I think it’s understandable that we admire the gorgeous clothes girls get! Like I said to a friend (who has a daughter), to dress up, the boys get jeans and the pick of a shirt. A girl is unlimited in choices! I agree that it’s superficial, but I also think that it’s a valid thought to have. We have our scan Thus next week, so I’m looking forward to finding out. I think I was more set on #2 being a girl than this one. Now I’m sort of set on the idea of a clan of boys, but still not sure if that’s just a preemptive thought!
Anyway, best of luck with the birth. Looking at the dates, you may have had bub by now. If so, I hope that you’re feeling well in whatever addition you’ve had arrive! Best of luck
Please share whether you’re currently expecting a third little boy or a little girl – I’m excited to know! As mentioned in my earlier post, bubs number 2 did turn out to be a girl and we’re really enjoying her. But I also would’ve loved another boy. In the end, I don’t think it matters because, once you hold your son/daughter for the first time, they are a person (not just a he or a she) and you couldn’t imagine having anybody else but them.
Good luck for the rest of your pregnancy and the birth, and I hope your third child is healthy and happy
I have two boys, and I found out at the ultrasound what we were having. I must admit that I prefer to know, it gives me time to adjust and prepare. I would have loved a girl, but more from a personal perspective. But now that I have two boys I wouldn’t change it, they are such great mates already and I feel proud that I’ve given my much loved first son a best friend to go through life with and have many childhood adventures together. I have a sister who is 18 months younger than me, and there are things from our childhood that no-one else could ever understand, shared memories and feelings. I’m so happy to give my sons this. I’m sure that if I had a girl, they would still be close, but not in the same way. I guess what I’m saying is that whatever you have you will be delighted. Girls are great, although sometimes I remember what a nasty teenager I was and am sooooo glad that I don’t have a daughter. We might still try for #3 (I haven’t decided, I feel like every child I have had has added ten years to me!!) but I’d actually be happy with another boy. We have a friend with all girls and when they come over we call them the Pink Team and we are the Blue Team. I love being the Blue Team. Plus, with all boys, it means that I always get to be the princess of the family! Good luck, and enjoy meeting your beautiful new child – whether he is blue or she is pink! Let us know how you go